Stop in for a cup of coffee

I don’t know the details fully. He’s relying on my sister in law who has no military experience, no VA experience to solve it. But he’s chosen to remove himself from our lives so it’s his problem. He got all butt hurt when my wife chewed him out for starting to smoke again after being smoke free for 3 years. My sister in law encouraged him too is the sick thing. Now his cancer is back and back hard.
Sad