Missing the point... for a career military person... who has no home community and local business base it is a very different thing. Guard guys go home after a couple week trip (as things go back to "normal" after the endless war). When I retired, my "friends" were scattered across the earth and I moved to a location where I knew nobody. Everything changes... it sounds goofy.. but I didn't have clothes to wear in a civilian workspace after 21 years of knowing exactly what I was wearing every day :D
It's different... can't really explain it well unless you've experienced it and nobody in your command has ever retired so they are zero help.