Hi-po exhaust manifolds

yeah, you can leave the conical washers off the center port bolts, but at $500-800 for a pair of these, I sure wouldn't risk busting the ears off of my manifolds in the name of what is supposed to be "correct".
Heat expansion in the length of the manifold. Expansion is X thousandths per inch, so on say 3" the expansion will be very little over #s 3 and 5, and 4 and 6, while #s 1, 7, 2 and 8 will be considerably more length change. I believe the conical washers let the manifold move a bit under them so it does not break the manifold.
The new designs the manifolds expand and contract and the bolts flex to allow that. This is why the 8mm bolts break, generally flush with the head.