I just sent money to a guy and the PayPal fee was 3.05%
I don't understand sellers insisting that buyers pay the 3% or send the money Friends and Family. When you're haggling with a guy at a swap meet on a $100 part, would you turn down an offer of $97? Heck no you wouldn't. When someone insists I use F&F it makes me suspicious of their intentions and I add the 3% in on my own.
To the original poster
@slapstickjim like I said earlier, I would go ahead and list a couple of the easiest parts to sell here, and maybe someone local to you could buy them. That person could pay CASH, just like on Marketplace or Craigslist. When that person leaves you positive feedback you have a little credibility that should lead to later sales.