sorry to hear that, when you're hungry, being told you need to give doesn't cut it. you must be fed first, then you will be willing to donate. we've got a church we visit that friends attend. haven't heard money request once, they make you feel like family, let you hang out at their shindigs and remember your name. sermons are about our relationship with Jesus and each other, not we want, we want, we want. please keep looking for such a place, they are out there.