But all to your other brothers as well as uncles (and aunts if need be) on how you feel and ask for moral and verbal support when everyone can confront him together. I bet he acts very different after a short time in front of everyone.
The key here is for everyone to have your back and shut him up on abusive speech and wording. Ether STFU or actually help in a kind and passionate way. If you can not kindly help, the. Your really not helping even though you think in your helping.
When he gets loud, you speak softer and softer with asking him wheat do you think of that statement? It’ll will calm him down. Open his ears up to listening instead of escalating. Also be prepared to make your point with facts of how he made you feel. It’s not a right or wrong on his or your behalf but the fact of communication and teaching effectively is done calmly without insulting and with a loving spirit of teaching.
I’ve learned this on the job when I was teaching in the field and the wife learned this while working in maximum security jails where the worst of the worst are.
Also remind him that no one knows everything as well as know one knows much of anything when they start. Remind him he knew nothing at one point and still doesn’t know everything dispite his years in the field.
Learn with books on the subject and if possible, an experienced buddy willing to hangout and wrench with you as you learn from him. If your buddy is willing to teach a bit, you’ll have a winning combo.
Come here for advice with the guys that have been there and done that work before. That’s the good of this place.