Dealing with a negative family member…or a person who just likes to put you down
Thanks for the advice rumblefish. I will give this a try.
Best of luck. People, siblings even more so, that speak and act like this are the most difficult people in the world. The rude open ended put down comments are designed to make you feel like a lesser person and stupid as well as many other things like, “Your not up to (nor will you ever be) up to task for that kind of hard ****.
The truth of the matter is, it’s easier to tear them apart and harder to out the them back together again.
Start a thread on what you’re working on and what you want from the project. Example, ‘69 Dart, small block to big block conversion, want to do a 500’ stroker that is street strip with the ability to run low 11’s high 10’s.
From there, it can be divided up into what needs to be done first and then each section, motor trans rear suspension body and paint can be talked about separately & effectively.
Here at FABO, if someone has t already done it, (fat chance) then it can be talked about. If it has already been done, like someone has built a 500” engine, they can guide you.
In the racers section, there is a thread on what it takes to run a certain ET and how the poster did it combo wise. It’s not a copy cat thing to copy someone else build but it certainly is flattering when someone does. So don’t be afraid to copy someone and flatter them.
There really isn’t anything that new under the sun that you have to do and try to be different. Just running a Mopar is different.
Leslie, when you’re done, you could probably display and drive it around, saying I did it. No matter what your sibling says, don’t give him any validations with arguments or explanations other than, I wanted to do it this way this is what I want I don’t care what’s better I don’t care what you think. Because for some people. No matter what you say there’s always something to say, and I feel that this is the problem with your sibling.
You could build an award winning totally ***** in Car and Hill still disrespected and yourself. Pay no mind, your car your way, enjoy the heck out of it! You’re not gonna get any grief from me and that’s for sure!
Glad to hear it for a bodies only. I’m glad you joined the club, stick around! Get cheered on. And build that bad boy! We got your back here.