Dealing with a negative family member…or a person who just likes to put you down

You can "pick your nose, pick your seat in the show and pick at a azz". You can't pick your relatives. I wish my whole family, my b&s and in laws, were not in my life at all. I am not condoning violent action, but a threat of a board upside the head, would do wonders, I think. It did with 1 of my people.(use an oak board).