My Wife Left Me Today -sucks

Wow! what a bummer. My sympathies man. My soon to be X son-in-law made a consious decision to exit his marriage after 20 years and 3 boys, the oldest starting college next week. First he got himself fired from his job as a cop for COBU (soliciting women while on duty), did the facebook thing and cheated on my daughter for at least 6 months before getting caught by my wife with another woman in my daughters bed. Would have been better if he had been a man about it all and just said I gotta go, but no, his true character showed through. Now he is working a minimum wage McJob and plunged my daughter and grandsons into grinding poverty, not wanting to pay any maintainence and minimal child support. We are all doing our best to navigate these unfamiliar waters but it is hard as this has not happened in our family before. I think our common humanity gives us all the opportunity to do these things and that it is only the man (or woman) in the mirror who says NO, this is wrong, I have to live by my code. It is an unfortunate evolution of our society today which includes many other malidies we all see in the media everyday.
OK, I am done now-----Desert(married to #1 for 43 years)Rat