Value of car purchase? Please, it's complicated!
He just called and then stopped by to show off his pick up he just bought yesterday!
2nd time he has been at our house sence he moved out. Sept 08.
We have never put our money in front of his needs. If fact he was actually pretty spoiled. The money I dropped in this car was with the idea he would have it forever and it would be safer for him to drive with all the new parts installed. We just started making him pay his own way on his car after he wrecked the first one. (lack of respect for things in general at the time and no idea of value or how hard it was to aquire a car)
Some quick background, (or why I posted this thread to FABO for advise before meeting with step son this AM) as normal male 17+years old, he was getting more & more difficult to live with. He was very spoiled by myself and his mom, I guess trying to make up for his father dying at 1 year old. He scored a once in a lifetime job locally, the kind you just don't find anymore.
Once he started getting the killer $ he started resenting helping out at $50.00 a week rent ($200.00 a month including everything & all the food he could eat! LOL!!
Anyway wouldn't listen for crap. Treating us bad. I came home one night to get yelled at in my driveway as soon as I got out of car. Long story short, that was the straw and I kicked him out right then, UGLY! (He already had a couple thousand saved up & was planning to move out but not tell us till he was moving)
Thought he would spend the night up the street at the local motel, come back the next day woth appologies, but suprise! His girlfriends parents let him move into their house for as long as he wanted! (Didn't see that one comming)
Called us once in June 09 to yell at both of us for his terrible life, and it was all our fault (only child, real father passed at 1 year old, never could live up to his real dad) his mom's fault for staying with me, and my fault for always yelling at him (couldn't get away with doing things wrong when he wanted and I would always be the bad guy by calling him on it then dealing the punishment (usually yelling then grounding to his room with every modern electronic devise known to man bought for him)
1st time he came back was this past Christmas for ABB's family so he attended but didn't talk to me yet.
Today was the first day I heard him talking to me without yelling at me sense Sept.08!
He said he just bought this truck (4x4 ranger) due to his 69 being hard to drive to work in the snow. He wants to sell his 69 Dart to replenish his bank account incase his job disappears like everyone elses!
I ask how much he was going to need to make him feel comfortable again with his bank account again.
He said he would like to get what he paid for it when we bought it ($2200.00)!
I said OK!!:cheers:
He was also being nice to us today!!:cheers:
So just so you guys understand, I was worried about making him mad if he wanted 4 or 5K for it!
But for some reason, it turned out all ok! (Make me start worring when that happens)
So after he does a few things to his new truck he'll drop the 69 off here and park it where it's safe. I will be cashing in 401 and have cash in hand to give him by 3/15/10! (Then I can bring it's quality back up to where it should be)
Only problem now is that the car wasn't here long enough to name! We got to figure out what to name the 69!:read2:
:-DGreat to have him talking to us again!!!
Thanks again guys!! Good Times!!
PS: Also explained to him that he may not understand now but the 69 will always be here for him when he starts missing it and wants to buy it back, for the same price! It will always be here for him just like ABB & me!
He just called and then stopped by to show off his pick up he just bought yesterday!
2nd time he has been at our house sence he moved out. Sept 08.
We have never put our money in front of his needs. If fact he was actually pretty spoiled. The money I dropped in this car was with the idea he would have it forever and it would be safer for him to drive with all the new parts installed. We just started making him pay his own way on his car after he wrecked the first one. (lack of respect for things in general at the time and no idea of value or how hard it was to aquire a car)
Some quick background, (or why I posted this thread to FABO for advise before meeting with step son this AM) as normal male 17+years old, he was getting more & more difficult to live with. He was very spoiled by myself and his mom, I guess trying to make up for his father dying at 1 year old. He scored a once in a lifetime job locally, the kind you just don't find anymore.
Once he started getting the killer $ he started resenting helping out at $50.00 a week rent ($200.00 a month including everything & all the food he could eat! LOL!!
Anyway wouldn't listen for crap. Treating us bad. I came home one night to get yelled at in my driveway as soon as I got out of car. Long story short, that was the straw and I kicked him out right then, UGLY! (He already had a couple thousand saved up & was planning to move out but not tell us till he was moving)
Thought he would spend the night up the street at the local motel, come back the next day woth appologies, but suprise! His girlfriends parents let him move into their house for as long as he wanted! (Didn't see that one comming)
Called us once in June 09 to yell at both of us for his terrible life, and it was all our fault (only child, real father passed at 1 year old, never could live up to his real dad) his mom's fault for staying with me, and my fault for always yelling at him (couldn't get away with doing things wrong when he wanted and I would always be the bad guy by calling him on it then dealing the punishment (usually yelling then grounding to his room with every modern electronic devise known to man bought for him)
1st time he came back was this past Christmas for ABB's family so he attended but didn't talk to me yet.
Today was the first day I heard him talking to me without yelling at me sense Sept.08!
He said he just bought this truck (4x4 ranger) due to his 69 being hard to drive to work in the snow. He wants to sell his 69 Dart to replenish his bank account incase his job disappears like everyone elses!
I ask how much he was going to need to make him feel comfortable again with his bank account again.
He said he would like to get what he paid for it when we bought it ($2200.00)!
I said OK!!:cheers:
He was also being nice to us today!!:cheers:
So just so you guys understand, I was worried about making him mad if he wanted 4 or 5K for it!
But for some reason, it turned out all ok! (Make me start worring when that happens)
So after he does a few things to his new truck he'll drop the 69 off here and park it where it's safe. I will be cashing in 401 and have cash in hand to give him by 3/15/10! (Then I can bring it's quality back up to where it should be)
Only problem now is that the car wasn't here long enough to name! We got to figure out what to name the 69!:read2:
:-DGreat to have him talking to us again!!!
Thanks again guys!! Good Times!!
PS: Also explained to him that he may not understand now but the 69 will always be here for him when he starts missing it and wants to buy it back, for the same price! It will always be here for him just like ABB & me!