Cam wiped out, what the hell did I do wrong?!?!?

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It is entirely possible you have a block with poorly machined lifter bores. This would cause cam failure even if everything was perfect, and is never checked. I don't check for it either, so I wouldn't beat yourself up too much over it if that's the case. This is a real problem with Hughes' cams over the years because they are so aggressive on the rate of lift. It's also why I shy away from max rate of lift cams for street builds. .

I found an older Crane nos cam on ebay. Has 226-230 @ .050 and only .458-.465 lift.

I had a 220 @ .050 custom cam with only .455 lift for 3 years-about 10,000+ miles. Looked like new when I pulled it. I see these over .500 lift for the same duration, seems pushing it.