I wrecked my share of cars and **** as a teen/young adult, but it always came out of my pocket, maybe I was a slow learner, I still wreck the odd thing, but at 61 years old, I just figure what the hell, if it's fun I'm gonna do it.
Teenagers suck
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My parents were lucky having me as a son......I was self motivated, good in school, good at sports.......and really good looking.
Mine is 17 and he’s a pretty good kid, much to the chagrin of my cousins. Apparently I was a bastard growing up and they all were licking their chops when they heard I was having a boy.
There are probably still black marks in Pittsburgh I managed to put down with a 82 Toyota diesel pickup in the 80’s…
There are probably still black marks in Pittsburgh I managed to put down with a 82 Toyota diesel pickup in the 80’s…
All teenagers don't suck. There are lots of good kids out there. I think a lot of the problems are the parents.....and I'm certainly not singling out the op here, just speaking in general terms. A lot of parents nowadays care about other things. Chasing ***, chasing money, staying high all the time, just doing things not conducive to good parenting. And then there are those parents who do everything they can do to give their kids a good upbringing and they still go bad. Sometimes, there's just nothing you can do. I had a pastor friend. A great friend for years. He had three boys. They are all grown with their own families now, but all three are fine young men. All three became Eagle Scouts. They all kept their noses clean. Sadly, covid got their dad a few years back. We lost a good friend. That was just a terrible thing. One of the biggest problems too is the divorce rate....and the rate at which parents don't even marry to begin with. A FAMILY is not a single parent. A family takes a mama AND a daddy to raise children. They don't have to be blood, but children need both male and female role models. The farther away we get from The Word, the worse things get. I'll just leave it "right there".
Frankie
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Glad to read that your teen is OK. Cars can be replaced, and it will.
My first wife had 3 kids, 2 boys and a girl, all were in their teens when I met her, the oldest was borderline emotionally challenged, but still fully functional. he went to live with his father after we had been together for less than 2 years, the second one was somewhat difficult, got involved with an 18 year old girl when he was 15, stopped going to school, except for the occasional day, stole food from our house to feed his "girlfriend", took basically whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted. His mother did little to nothing to correct him, he was her favorite, until one day when she finally had enough and sent him to live with his father as well. The daughter was just 13 when we got together, and was probably the most devious. She seemed on the surface to be very innocent and charming, but at one point she accused us of physically abusing her in the hope that, like her friend, she could get welfare and live on her own, at 15!
The oldest had no clue how to drive, I tried teaching him several times, but he just couldn't get it, literally drove directly into a power pole one day in our alley. That was the last time I took him out driving, his father paid thousands for him to take lessons.
The favorite child had always wanted his mother's 75 Dart, and she was willing to oblige, so I went through the whole car to ensure it was safe and reliable for him, he was a quick learner behind the wheel, but in less than 3 weeks, the Dart was wrapped around a power pole late one night, only a few blocks from our house. I declined to file an insurance claim, and hauled the wreck home, parking it in the front yard for all the world to see what he had done to it. Then I made him help me strip the salvageable parts off it, and drag it to the scrapyard. Not long after that he had gotten his brother's permission to use his car, and totaled it as well. After that he was on his own to buy another car, which he did, and wrecked in short order.
The daughter went through several cars as well, I split with their mother in 2005 and haven't heard from any of them since.
My second wife has 1 son, he was 19 when we met, wrecked his share of cars, and nearly 2 of my trucks, is now 38, and the last few times his mother has spoken to him, he has wished her dead. ignorant bastard.
Apologies for the long winded rant, and kinda getting off track.
The oldest had no clue how to drive, I tried teaching him several times, but he just couldn't get it, literally drove directly into a power pole one day in our alley. That was the last time I took him out driving, his father paid thousands for him to take lessons.
The favorite child had always wanted his mother's 75 Dart, and she was willing to oblige, so I went through the whole car to ensure it was safe and reliable for him, he was a quick learner behind the wheel, but in less than 3 weeks, the Dart was wrapped around a power pole late one night, only a few blocks from our house. I declined to file an insurance claim, and hauled the wreck home, parking it in the front yard for all the world to see what he had done to it. Then I made him help me strip the salvageable parts off it, and drag it to the scrapyard. Not long after that he had gotten his brother's permission to use his car, and totaled it as well. After that he was on his own to buy another car, which he did, and wrecked in short order.
The daughter went through several cars as well, I split with their mother in 2005 and haven't heard from any of them since.
My second wife has 1 son, he was 19 when we met, wrecked his share of cars, and nearly 2 of my trucks, is now 38, and the last few times his mother has spoken to him, he has wished her dead. ignorant bastard.
Apologies for the long winded rant, and kinda getting off track.
And although you don't come out and say it, you allude to another BIG problem with families. They think the children are the most important. I've heard SO many single moms say "My CHILDREN are the most important thing in the world". This is wrong thinking, and probably one reason why they ARE single mothers. Their priorities were not in the right place right from the start. The most important thing is GOD and then your SPOUSE. Without them, there IS no family. Putting children on a pedestal only reassures them that what they say goes. They are essentially in charge of the family and that's wrong.
I was told two things as a "young "person:
1. Pay attention to what the Bible tells you.
2. Suck it up. Take it like a man.
1. Pay attention to what the Bible tells you.
2. Suck it up. Take it like a man.
bcschief
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And then you end up with a 43-year-old living at home with his girlfriend and 14-year-old grandson on my dime and all the drama that goes with it.
Children should never be the most important thing in your life just RRR said. I so agree. Doing so can make them into people that they should never be.
A somewhat spoiled teenager once told his mother, "if you could not have afforded me, you should have never had me." Quote unquote. This was said to a woman that did everything possible to give him want ever he needed. Not really spoiled I guess, just did not appreciate all his parents did for him. He might not got everything he wanted. But he got what they could afford to give him and more. He is a super intelligent "kid" ate age 34. He worked himself thru college and has a masters and a great job, married an RN., and they have 2 good rug rats, 4 and 5. He turned out good, but he could have easily gone the other direction IMHO.
Life is funny somedays, and other days it makes you want to kick the chit out of some people.
A somewhat spoiled teenager once told his mother, "if you could not have afforded me, you should have never had me." Quote unquote. This was said to a woman that did everything possible to give him want ever he needed. Not really spoiled I guess, just did not appreciate all his parents did for him. He might not got everything he wanted. But he got what they could afford to give him and more. He is a super intelligent "kid" ate age 34. He worked himself thru college and has a masters and a great job, married an RN., and they have 2 good rug rats, 4 and 5. He turned out good, but he could have easily gone the other direction IMHO.
Life is funny somedays, and other days it makes you want to kick the chit out of some people.
I have a niece who is 33 and still at home......and always will be. I guess I'm a hard ***. I wouldda shown her the door a while back.
I am proud of my son and daughter especially after my wife was killed while they were teenagers and I had to raise them on my own. Never had to go get them out of jail or any trouble that they got caught at anyway. My son owns his own business that he started on his own after working public jobs. He named it Gen3 after myself and my Dad since we owned our own excavating businesses, None of it was passed down and we all started from scratch, My daughter is a legal assistant and each have one daughter. Oldest is in her third year of college and youngest is in 10th grade and also taking college courses. I am sure their Mom would be proud of them, Took me 30 years but I finally remarried 1 1/2 years ago. Said I never would but God sent the right one, Joe
^^^^ Congratulations on all your family!!
diymirage
HP@idle > hondaHP@redline
Darn tooting
I have told my kids this before "dont ever try to get between your mom and me, because shes irreplaceable, but im gonna have fun with her, making a replacement for you"
My best friend has 2 of his 4 kids still living in the basement, both boys, one is 32, the other 35. I don't understand it for the life of me, he was on his own at 15, and his wife was on her own basically at 16. I know it drives him crazy, but she seems to think it's ok. Neither one has a job!
SMH
WTF!!?????
I had a HS classmate, lived just down the road. His name was Kenny. When he was 14, his dad bought him a Mo-Ped. At 17, the girl across the road (which he had a huge crush on), her dad had $ and bought her a new 65 Fairlane. At very afternoon, Kenny asks if he can take it down the road. She lets him, and he turns down a dirt road and rolls it! Gone all of 10 minutes!
Kenny wants his dad to buy him a car, he turns 16. Dad says no, unless you get a job after school or Sat. His dad is an insurance agent and can afford such, but the kid wants NO part pf any after school job. He bums a ride home from school every day and I get to MY after school job by 3:30 and 12 1/.2 hrs. every Sat. Pa did give me a wore out 49 Chevy the day I turned 16 which was my first day at my after school job at the A & P Grocery! But I bought my gas and horse feed, and shotgun shells.
Kenny goes to College and graduates, and he and a classmate go to the high $ burbs of Atlanta and start a local newspaper that about what is happening in high $ Alpharetta, Ga. He marries the girl that had the Fairlane, they have a fancy 2 story home in the burbs, and before long, Kenny has embesseled their co. into bankrupsy. They get a divorce. Kenny has some various white collar jobs, and always seems to get caught with his hand in the company cookie jar. Finally goes to prison,. a time or two.
About age 50, dead broke, he comes back to our home town and moves in with wealthy local that felt sorry for him. Another classmate gives Kenny a job, and informs him IF he steals from him, he won't go to jail, he would simply kill him. Kenny (and I) believed him.
I saw Kenny's brother one day, a leading citizen of the county, when I was back home visiting family. I asked him about Kenny. He simply stated, matter of factly, and I quote " I have NO brother".
About a year later, I heard Kenny had "passed away." He was maybe 50.
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