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Thanks again for the words of advice everyone. They are very helpful.
because we share the same belief that we don't need it. Its not a bad thing,
"Living in a modern world" as you put it, is a LOT of what's WRONG with the world today. Like it, or not.
Well I did not see one thing on here and I will give you this. Avoiding saying NO in the first place with him. Avoid making something a command when a request or an option will work. See if you say you must get down and walk on your own then you are stuck with enforcing your command so he understands boundaries. So only make it a command when you have to. He will learn the difference. He doesn't like NO from you because you are new and different and he enjoys you.
So make sure you are not going off in the other direction just to show him who is boss or to set boundaries. Say no when it has to be no, yes when it can be yes, then share the rest of the times with them. Life is too precious to spend it making rules and saying no.
There's a lot of variety today because there are more deviants. Simple as that.
Sorry, did not understand some of this, bit fuzzy today....but the text I changed I completely agree with. My first marriage failed largely because we were not committed to each other....lot more to it but that was a large part of it. She was to busy "making up for lost time" and I was to busy trying to figure out ways to control her. We had 0 commitment towards each other. Have always wondered about how some folks do nothing but talk sh*t about marriage....can't help but wonder if they have some sort of commitment issues....So, are you saying that the variety is blanketed by deviation? That would mean that parents don't leave children to alternative families and lifestyles for any reason, beyond control. Car accidents, terminal illness, murder, war casualty, job related fatal accidents, mothers dying by childbirth, adopting children out of cultures or homes that can't afford to support the kids, loss of jobs, loss of homes, relocating to out of state for countless reasons, including, but not limited to work, military, etc...
You can't blanket everything with deviation as a cause.
And whether the life that children live is by their family's choice, or bestowed, it doesn't matter, because in reality, all you have is variety. Variety has always been there. We live in one culture. There are hundreds of cultures and ways of life around the entire world, each family within having their own way of life, their own home rules and practices, etc.
This has gone on for as long as we can document and through each generation, let alone century, we see more variety, documented throughout history.
I don't see the point in going backwards. I think its perfectly acceptable to acknowledge different ways of life, because everyone has always been different.
I've seen plenty of marriages get canned (google searching statistics tell it better than I can) and I've seen plenty that work. It is as viable, these days, a being someone's boyfriend or girlfriend. Marriage works, just like any other form of commitment, but you need commitment for marriage to work. Its not the other way around, so I know where my roots are.
So, are you saying that the variety is blanketed by deviation? That would mean that parents don't leave children to alternative families and lifestyles for any reason, beyond control. Car accidents, terminal illness, murder, war casualty, job related fatal accidents, mothers dying by childbirth, adopting children out of cultures or homes that can't afford to support the kids, loss of jobs, loss of homes, relocating to out of state for countless reasons, including, but not limited to work, military, etc...
You can't blanket everything with deviation as a cause.
And whether the life that children live is by their family's choice, or bestowed, it doesn't matter, because in reality, all you have is variety. Variety has always been there. We live in one culture. There are hundreds of cultures and ways of life around the entire world, each family within having their own way of life, their own home rules and practices, etc.
This has gone on for as long as we can document and through each generation, let alone century, we see more variety, documented throughout history.
I don't see the point in going backwards. I think its perfectly acceptable to acknowledge different ways of life, because everyone has always been different.
I've seen plenty of marriages get canned (google searching statistics tell it better than I can) and I've seen plenty that work. It is as viable, these days, a being someone's boyfriend or girlfriend. Marriage works, just like any other form of commitment, but you need commitment for marriage to work. Its not the other way around, so I know where my roots are.