Dealing with a negative family member…or a person who just likes to put you down

-
calicowilly13

calicowilly13

Active Member
Joined
Dec 3, 2024
Messages
31
Reaction score
29
Location
SW Nebraska
Hi all,

Here is a thing I’ve been dealing with my whole life. I am the youngest of three brothers and my middle brother constantly craps on anything I do and has to berate me in front of anyone as much as possible. I’m a pretty laid back dude but he has always gotten to me. So, I recently got a Mopar A Body for a restoration/cruiser project. He has always considered himself the mechanic of the family, even though we have an uncle and cousin that do that for a living. We are in a group chat with my uncle and we’re talking about current things we are in to, and I posted a pic of the car I’m working on and my brother immediately talked me down and said I’m gonna learn what it takes. I’ve started projects before, just not Mopar. He called me out for this car being my first and “I’m gonna learn, tearing them down is easier than building them up” which I do agree with but didn’t like that he had to jump himself into a thread he wasn’t apart of. Me and my brother were talking about the project a few minutes before I posted the message and he didn’t say anything like that to me. Am I being a brat that I’m mad at him for talking crap? I know this is more of a working on cars thread these issues(not just car stuff) have been bugging me for years.
 
Brother or no brother some people have to knock people down to feel better about themselves. You do you and let the things you cant change go. The serenity prayer is a thing of great change if you actually look at the words and begin to apply it to your life
 
Just because you're related doesn't mean you have to like em ! I have 2 sisters I haven't talked with in 10 years since my dad passed away.. I don't need their BS in my life.
 
lenky1 said:
Brother or no brother some people have to knock people down to feel better about themselves. You do you and let the things you cant change go. The serenity prayer is a thing of great change if you actually look at the words and begin to apply it to your life
Click to expand...
Thanks my dude. That’s how I live usually.
 
RAT ROD AL said:
Just because you're related doesn't mean you have to like em ! I have 2 sisters I haven't talked with in 10 years since my dad passed away.. I don't need their BS in my life.
Click to expand...
Thanks brother. I’m been at that point with him a few times. Every time I open back up it ends up the same.
 
RAT ROD AL said:
Just because you're related doesn't mean you have to like em ! I have 2 sisters I haven't talked with in 10 years since my dad passed away.. I don't need their BS in my life.
Click to expand...
Over 20 years of silence between me and my man-hating sister.

And I’m ok with it!
 
calicowilly13 said:
Thanks dude! I felt like you guys would. I just second guess thinking I’m in the wrong…years of living that way has its affect on a person.
Click to expand...
Two types of people out there:

Those that give you energy, and those that suck the energy out of you.

Life’s too short to worry about/deal with the latter.
 
Family drama.

Fuel to build your whip quick and start having fun with it. Progress should only be reported in one on one threads with the people you want to know. If it gets brought up in multi person thread your response should be “its going great!!”

That’s it, nothing else. Don’t give the wolf his meal.
 
When it's one of my brothers I always resorted to violence, that's the only thing they understood.
Now that I'm older I get a kick out of it when my youngest son 27 puts my oldest son 40 in his place.
My middle son 35 has always been kicked back and quiet, kinda like a time bomb. lol
 
Imagine marrying into a family like that, they constantly put down everybody, including people that help them. My ex father-in-law could not figure out why I would not work on his vehicles, he would ***** and complained to everybody that I would not help him out. I did once but then I heard what he was saying behind my back and I never did it again. His daughter was the same way and after 19 years I sent her on her way. All people are doing bye putting you down is trying to build themselves up and it’s truly pathetic.
If I were you I would block your brother forget about it.
Good luck
 
Last edited:
You must log in or register to reply here.
-

Back
Top