Lost my Cuz

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44070dart

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I lost my cousin Sam yesterday and I'm beyond crushed. He was two years older than me, but we've been together all our lives. We played baseball all day as kids, until it was too dark to see the ball. Then it was football in the street, under the street lights, until our Grandfather came out and said, you mothers called and said to come home. We usually played football, summer and winter, 2 on 2 with our other two cousins who we lost some years ago. The four of us were inseparable. When we weren't playing baseball in the field, near where we lived with all the guys from the neighborhood, we played strikeout, just the four of us, against the nearest wall. We frequented many bars, smoked "pot" as teens, chased all kinds of ladies (have a real great story about that) and did it all together. He went to Nam when I was 16, and I cried on the drive home. When he came home, we hugged like it was 20 years since we had seen each other. You have to understand we grew up where my whole family lived within three blocks of my Grandfathers house. Six aunts, two uncles, and their spouses and children. My aunts, uncles and 21 cousins in our Italian neighborhood. We had war babies, boomers, and late arrivals, but we grew up close. All the holidays, and birthdays as kids, or any occasions were spent at my Grandfathers house, as it was a large house. Everybody had to at least make an appearance, before or after they were anywhere else. My Grandfather was the "Don".

My cousin Sam was 76, and seemingly in good health. Married for 52 years with three daughters, a son and nine grandchildren. A full life, thank God. Lost a kidney to cancer 6 years ago, but beat the **** out of the cancer.
We had our usual Tuesday coffee last week, with five guys we went to grammar school with. I thought we would have coffee today. He never had a heart issue, but it just stopped beating yesterday. I'm writing this as a release, because I'm in pain that I can't describe. I''ll miss him till the day I die, and see him again.
 
Truly sorry for your loss. I can feel your pain in the words you have written, there is no doubt you were as close as brothers. May Sam rest in peace and may you find comfort in the memories that you shared.
 
I'm very sorry for your loss. :( It sounds like you and Sam were more like brothers than cousins. Writing about your lives together really is therapy. Been there, done that myself. I hope this makes sense, but even though Sam may be physically gone, he will be around for a long time since he is well remembered. Keep telling Sam stories with your old friends and family! R.I.P. Sam.
 
Worst part about getting old isn't the wrinkles or the gray hair or even the loss of strength, agility and balance. The worst is losing so many people that you truly care about and who have been a big part of your own life for so many years. Then - poof - just like that, they are gone forever.

So sorry for your loss.
 
Wow, thanks for sharing. Sounds like the epitome of a great family!
Our condolences. Strength and positive thoughts for all.
 
My sympathies. As they say, remember the good times, and it sounds like there were lots of those.
 
Sorry for your loss, a huge loss.
You were blessed to have him in your life, your whole life.
 
Sorry for your loss but to me it sounds like Sam will live on in the hearts & memories of those who loved him... And you'll see him on the other side...
 
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