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Skate And Destroy
If there's one thing I have learnt is that if you have a shitty Bathroom and Kitchen and you want to spend money on a car It just aint going to work for your wife.
Get the Bathroom and Kitchen done and it will ease the pressure on what you want want to do on your car. If you work on your own car you have some ability to do some of the reno work on your house yourself.
My wife and I have money that goes into an account to pay mortgage, bills and groceries and we have a weekly allowance each that we spend on what we want. No questions asked how each other spends their allowance money.
My wife is the type to use stuff beyond it's usefulness. Like her cars - she'd drive them into the ground to the point of being uncomfortable and unsafe. When we first started dating, She drove an '89 Blazer. She drove into the late 2000's and it was downright dangerous. It took me over a year to convince her to get rid of it and she did only when her old mechanic told her not to sink any more money into it. We ended up donating it and it had to be towed away. She'd rather keep fixing something than do the more sensible thing and buy new or at least less-used.
Our house is such that doing a room by room makeover does not solve it's inherent problems. It's small, we have no room and it's only going to get worse as our kids get older/bigger. Everything is literally falling apart. The previous owners were hacks and did all sorts of half-assed and poorly executed things. It needs to be totally re-done and it isn't really even worth doing because it ain't that great to begin with. But, she is stuck on staying here and doing it the room-by-room way. No matter how I try, she won't be convinced of anything else. So she's both cheap and stubborn. I can't engage it anymore.
I guess that's probably why I keep my car spending to myself. I'd rather not have her see what I'm doing since there's really no flexibility on anything. Again, you gotta make yourself happy in life because no one else will do it it for you, including your wife.