Yeah, you are in trouble,lol.
You are correct the BJ is threaded into the UCA only.
If the upper arm cannot be stabilized, then it will be very difficult to blow that joint apart without a bit of heat. If you are familiar with a torch, this is not a big job.
But to blow it apart cold, that joint will need to be rendered immobile, then the pickle fork will make short work of it.
There is also available, a small tool that is inserted between the BJs and then screwed apart to put a tremendous amount of separation pressure between them, and then a whack or two pops it apart.
The pickle fork method will require that the entire assembly be removed and stabilized in a vice on a very heavy workbench, or stabilized in a press or on a concrete floor.
The screwpress may work in-situ.
The torch is fast and easy, but you need to know what you are doing to not spoil the knuckle.
If the BJ is to be replaced then just get the nut off, flip the whole thing upside down and whack the stud a time or two with a serious hammer. Whack it like you really mean it. I usually just back the nut off to the end of the threads so I have a bigger target to aim for. But a time or two this has backfired, cuz when it breaks free and if the nut won't come off, then you have a new problem.
You can also play an air hammer along the knuckle where the stud is fixed and the vibration will often pop it loose.This method has often worked for me. it too can be worked in-situ, but you need a pretty decent compressor to keep up to the air-hammer.
But I'll tell you a secret; I do all this stuff BEFORE the arm ever comes off the frame. It just makes it so much easier. Just wait until you try to uncsrew that upper BJ! Hah! Sorry, I couldn't resist that. Ok seriously, that UCA HAS to be bolted in to cuz we need the weight of the entire car to stabilize that guy in the fore and aft direction. Further-more we need the rest of the parts installed to stabilize the arm in a vertical direction. The T-bar can be out, and for me is preferred. Then with the special BJ socket, and the biggest 1/2" J-bar in Snap-Ons arsenal and a 4ft cheater bar, get ready to have at it. You will have to lay on your back under the car, so make sure there is no way it can fall on you-NO WAY! Then stick your legs up in there somewhere to push on something solid. Then PULL, PULL , PULL!
Those suckers are some seriously tight! You are gonna need your spinach,popeye!
No, I don't think you can do this any other way;at least I have never been able to. At least with a drive-on hoist, I didn't have to lay on my back anymore. But the absence of my leg power, required a much longer bar.And the chassis had to be well anchored, cuz the force of the 6ft bar wanted to drive it right off the jack! Look out!when it first breaks free. The sudden movement usually collapses the entire set-up, and sent me flying. Laying under the car, this can mean skinned knuckles and who knows where the flying socket will land?I do,I do! Yeah so wear head and eye protection,please.
I might as well tell you, of all the many many screw-in BJs I unscrewed; there were very few that were not this super-tight. Maybe you will get lucky.........