I'm not sure where you heard that synthetic oil makes your valve seals hard. PAO (Group IV) oils tend to shrink seals but modern synthetics have seal conditioner additives to promote long seal life (see
Use seal conditioners as preventive maintenance?). I have heard that
some people have experienced oil leaks after trying synthetic oil. Usually, switching back to dino oil (or fixing your worn seals or gaskets) stops the leaks.
As for the ZDDP (antiwear and antioxidant additive), the latest Starburst oils (
ILSAC GF-4) are limited to 600-800 ppm of phosphorus (the antiwear component of ZDDP).
Heavy Duty Engine Oils still contain plenty of phosphorus and only 1110-1200 ppm is necessary to protect aggressive aftermarket flat-tappet valve trains (see
CJ-4/SM HDEO & Flat Tappet Valve Train Protection). 15W-40 CI-4/SL HDEOs typically have the most phosphorus (approaching 1400 ppm) but a good CI-4/SL HDEO contains 1000-1200 ppm of phosphorus, which is what CJ-4/SM oils still contain.
Rotella is one of
Shell's Fleet Lubrication Products but they don't list phosphorus content on their data sheets. Chevron Delo has much more informative spec sheets and their
Delo LE 400 SAE 10W-30 (CJ-4/SM) contains 1100 ppm of phosphorus. I like
Esso XD-3 Extra 0W-30 (CJ-4/SM) but it's not available in the USA. Basically, any HDEO will have plenty of anti-wear protection for flat-tappet engines and will have more detergents to keep street-driven engines cleaner than racing oils. Use a CI-4/SL HDEO (with 1200-1400 ppm of phosphorus) if you have a very aggressive aftermarket flat-tappet valve train.
If you add EOS, make sure that the concentration of phosphorus in your engine oil is around 1200 ppm and does not exceed 1400 ppm. More than 2000 ppm of phosphorus leads to
camshaft spalling. You'll need to review your high school chemistry notes for the calculations. Or you can just dump a bottle in and hope for the best.
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