Have you ever eaten with "real Mexican's"?
I had some very close friends (#1 son was an extreme Mopar head) and ate lunch/dinner with them a few times.
Their idea of spicy is not at all what the stereotype is.
Poblano's cooked in to some things and a smoky mild-ish sauce was what these folks did.
I've had that version elsewhere as well.
Some of them did however, eat "grove peppers", which were ridiculously hot, but they ate them outside of meals.
True. Most of what "we" call mexican food, is not really mexican at all.