I had to hear his side of the story, so I called him, his invite after I texted him. I talked to Justin for almost 1/2 hour, seems like your normal average kid. He just turned 18 and goes by what his grandpa says for advice.
He claims downsr just yelled and cussed at him from the start of the problem. (not making accusations, just relaying info I was told ) Also said his home and cell phone ring a lot since this all started. He said he will wait to pay downsr back when he sees $ from ups. I told him about seller responsibility, yada yada and he stands by his decision. I asked if ups pays him tomorrow, he'd pay back downsr? He replied yes to that. His logic is that if you cuss him out the way he aledged, he's done with you. That was his upbringing. He comes from money, said he didn't need the 160, but stood by not giving it back because, he'd "be out 160 bucks". I did my best father imitation (i don't have kids) about doing the right thing, being young and making a name instead of ruining one, even used an example of a successful parts/cars business man who started out the same way. He remained as solid as an old oak tree.
He was polite to me, never intentionally cocky, and said to call back if I ever wanted to chat about cars.Not saying good or bad about him, again just relaying the info he told me. I hope it gets resolved soon, and peacefully.