Stop in for a cup of coffee

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My BIL was released from the hospital today. It took way longer than expected, tons of information they needed to give us. Got him home to his apartment around 2 pm (he was supposed to be released at 10 am). Then downloaded all of the info with the home health aide that will be there 24/7 and met with the visiting nurse at 4:30 pm when she came by and repeated the process. By the time we got everything set and settled it was nearly 7 pm.

The next 3 weeks or so are going to be a big lift for us. Clinic appointments every 3 days, daily visiting nurse assessments, running groceries and prescriptions and anything else he needs. He is barely capable of anything right now so we have to do everything for him or provide care to do it. The only upside is that this is recovery, and he will get better and stronger with each passing day. The alternative was that without the transplant, he would have eventually needed the same care and it would have only gotten worse as he went into hospice care.

3-6 weeks and everyone starts to get their life back...most of all him. Not surprisingly, he's scared. He was preparing for death and now he has to face the reality of having a real life back. He's overwhelmed by all of what that means and how he must now live up to this second chance given as the answer to his prayers.

He asked, God gave, and now he has to honor and make the most of the gift. I can see the fear in his eyes...
 
Well since there is no one in the coffee shop, I'll just think out loud.

My house I bought just over a year ago doesn't have anything on the back finished. It just has a crappy set of builder steps coming down from the sliding door off the kitchen...

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I really want to finish it up and put on a nice 12' x 18' deck and side patio plus walkway.

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I got a quote yesterday for the deck and even though my funds are draining fast with my BIL's expenses, I think I want to pull the trigger on the deck part (at least) for this year...I'm entitled to live too, right?

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Ddaddy said:
Well since there is no one in the coffee shop, I'll just think out loud.

My house I bought just over a year ago doesn't have anything on the back finished. It just has a crappy set of builder steps coming down from the sliding door off the kitchen...

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I really want to finish it up and put on a nice 12' x 18' deck and side patio plus walkway.

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I got a quote yesterday for the deck and even though my funds are draining fast with my BIL's expenses, I think I want to pull the trigger on the deck part (at least) for this year...I'm entitled to live too, right?

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Yep, time for a nice deck
 
Ddaddy said:
My BIL was released from the hospital today.

3-6 weeks and everyone starts to get their life back...most of all him. Not surprisingly, he's scared. He was preparing for death and now he has to face the reality of having a real life back. He's overwhelmed by all of what that means and how he must now live up to this second chance given as the answer to his prayers.

He asked, God gave, and now he has to honor and make the most of the gift. I can see the fear in his eyes...
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I'll be praying for him. A good counselor and support group(s) will help. It is not easy for someone to change his whole mindset. In my opinion, a couple key things: he has to forgive himself for all the mistakes he made, and he needs to help others.
 
dukeboy_318 said:
So wise old guys, think the latest news out of D.C. will result in Trump being impeached
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I think Ryan has too much riding on him still. It's a matter of time, though, the clown in the WH will keep doing things like this - and worse. The whole GOP - with a few exceptions - enabled this dumpster fire and they're all on a bus heading for a cliff. They still think it's somehow better for them not to jump off. Once the popular opinion on DT swings - they're all doomed.
 
Ddaddy said:
My BIL was released from the hospital today. It took way longer than expected, tons of information they needed to give us. Got him home to his apartment around 2 pm (he was supposed to be released at 10 am). Then downloaded all of the info with the home health aide that will be there 24/7 and met with the visiting nurse at 4:30 pm when she came by and repeated the process. By the time we got everything set and settled it was nearly 7 pm.

The next 3 weeks or so are going to be a big lift for us. Clinic appointments every 3 days, daily visiting nurse assessments, running groceries and prescriptions and anything else he needs. He is barely capable of anything right now so we have to do everything for him or provide care to do it. The only upside is that this is recovery, and he will get better and stronger with each passing day. The alternative was that without the transplant, he would have eventually needed the same care and it would have only gotten worse as he went into hospice care.

3-6 weeks and everyone starts to get their life back...most of all him. Not surprisingly, he's scared. He was preparing for death and now he has to face the reality of having a real life back. He's overwhelmed by all of what that means and how he must now live up to this second chance given as the answer to his prayers.

He asked, God gave, and now he has to honor and make the most of the gift. I can see the fear in his eyes...
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What, if I may ask, put him in need of a new liver?
 
Ddaddy said:
Well since there is no one in the coffee shop, I'll just think out loud.

My house I bought just over a year ago doesn't have anything on the back finished. It just has a crappy set of builder steps coming down from the sliding door off the kitchen...

View attachment 1715048644

I really want to finish it up and put on a nice 12' x 18' deck and side patio plus walkway.

View attachment 1715048646

I got a quote yesterday for the deck and even though my funds are draining fast with my BIL's expenses, I think I want to pull the trigger on the deck part (at least) for this year...I'm entitled to live too, right?

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Isn't that a tad on the small side?
 
goldfish65 said:
I'll be praying for him. A good counselor and support group(s) will help. It is not easy for someone to change his whole mindset. In my opinion, a couple key things: he has to forgive himself for all the mistakes he made, and he needs to help others.
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I agree, if he's made mistakes that put him there, making sure he doesn't feel guilt is imperative.
 
Ddaddy said:
Well since there is no one in the coffee shop, I'll just think out loud.

My house I bought just over a year ago doesn't have anything on the back finished. It just has a crappy set of builder steps coming down from the sliding door off the kitchen...

View attachment 1715048644

I really want to finish it up and put on a nice 12' x 18' deck and side patio plus walkway.

View attachment 1715048646

I got a quote yesterday for the deck and even though my funds are draining fast with my BIL's expenses, I think I want to pull the trigger on the deck part (at least) for this year...I'm entitled to live too, right?

View attachment 1715048647
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one word - bigger
 
And it had a broken clip and the advance plate was stuck pretty good and also needed shims on the shaft, actually one of the easier ones,
 
hey, I'm glad you're able to do something with it - it was forgotten in the bottom of a box for - well... I don't even know.. but a long time
 
It was definitely rebuilt at some time it was sprayed silver inside and out, thank god for aircraft stripper. Of course new points/cond Cap and rotor, I put the total advance on the bottom of the sheet, pretty nice one actually bet it was in a MT cat, still do not know what it is one of the strange numbers with no info on it.
 
well, the only engine I ever totally took apart and then did nothing with was the 340 - which is all weird in my head now because I have all these 71 340 Duster parts but the engine was a 73 - - so somewhere along the line it seems I have forgotten about a car or a purchase I made...
 
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