I,m not cheap i,m broke

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daredevil said:
Thanks Jack Mike and Joe.I figured I would get hate mail. A little support even though my views aren't popular sure helps the desperation depression feelings. It's rough when you start doubting your self worth.
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You are very welcome Pete and I know the feeling. I felt like absolute crap when I lost my job and started to severely doubt my self-worth as well. It's a pain that reaches to the core of an independent, self-sufficeint man. It really is an internal struggle that can tear a man in two.

I found that the only thing that helped me was to try to help with technical advice, help my local friends with stuff and write posts like "How Interveiw and Write a Resume'". At least it made me feel somewhat useful. :-D
 
Pete,after reading some of ur replies I now understand what ur feeling.been there on the bankrupcy thing 4 years ago lost everything.You don't need to be sorry for anything we all need to vent of feelings sometimes.As far as counseling do what u need to take care of u I'm in it right now and it helps take care superdart340
 
Your a good guy DD. Sorry to here you are having trouble. Hang in there and take it easy. I need you around here to keep me in line. It has been fun and would not be the same with out you.

Russell
 
This is one reason that I liked this forum is because of the members that go above and beyond the call. While I know alot of folks on here are struggling to make it and finding themselves in deep. But this was a place were people could come and be equal. Some members are more well off and alot of them show it by helping others that may not be. I think we all have to be fortunate to have such a place like this. I've donated to a few either it be by donating money or buying items or parts. I love this place and in the chat room you will find a select few of genuine people that come in night after night and just chat and BS. But I've never felt pressured to donate to any of these. I simply look it like this if I have the means to help. I don't feel bad or pressured into it. A quote for the waggy dog himself "Don't go racing with grocery money" But I will say that I bet there isnt another site like this place where the feeling of brotherhood and the comradery makes a person feel at home when they walk in.
 
I chimed in to be a sympathetic ear, not really to complain. I have my wife of 21 years and these financial set backs are bringing us closer not farther apart. Everything was paid off when we moved ,except next house. I can live with the fastback in storage shelter for more years if needed. I think of it as a time to collect parts I want by trading parts I don't need. (See Alex from brazil's thread about trading for a grill.) Myself ,I've never felt pressured to donate or guilty cause I can't because I do help people just not with cash right now. I sometimes think the guitar playing guy sitting at the store getting handouts is making more some days than me. But I bet I'm still richer in life than him. Keep thinking positive.
 
daredevil said:
Lately everyday there is a new cause someone wants you to send money to. I always wonder if people look down on me when I dont donate lately. I sit sleepless some nights trying to figure out how to finish my car so I can sell it so I can afford my daughter a school car. I havent had a vacation in three years as I cant afford one.I posted this and a mod deleted it. Yet people ask for donations for people with their own buisnesses and people who I looked at their vacation pics and others with show cars wrecked but insured but some still ask you to help.I,ve helped so many i cant count anymore and seen people turn their backs on people who really were in need because they werent popular. I really dont care who this pisses off because i,m tired of being asked to help people better off than I am. Pick your charities wisely or when a real need arises people may be too tired of being hit up to give. Rant over.
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DUDE.............. Perfect........
 
It seems that one or two good deeds has sparked a lot of those "donation threads". I know it's good to help people, and the people here on fabo are willing, but I don't think that anyone will look down on you that you aren't donating. If they do, I think they have an issue.
 
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0HEW5bXqKbU"]YouTube- The Kinks - Low Budget[/ame]
 
This ain't a charity

and not everyone can help.

I don't know about the rest of you...but I'm too busy fixing ' everyone else's ' sht and giving more than I can sometimes afford 'time wise' that I could be spending with my 'immediate family'. On top of that...I'm also thin 'cash wise' and thin in the patients department...

BTW
If some people feel good about asking for & accepting money from internet strangers..thats your business.
And if you are offended by this thread or post replies to this thread...then this thread was definitely directed at you, sleep well.

ha ha ha
 
Allllllll, righty then, my coffer is open! Ka-ching!

Biggerboobiesforeveryone .com has deep and empty pockets, chuck some in boys!

(Say no to shirt stuffing!)
 
i.ve had to live with the you got 5 kid **** for years well there all mine and from the same babys mom. some people have chosen to only have one or none at all. they may have more cash then me but i,ve diffently got more love comeing my way. i was from a famly of two with seperanted parents. i will never leave my famly or ever marrey again if something happen to my wife. i lived my live before i made the choise to get marred and have kids. and the other hand my dad was from a famly of 14 and his dad never had a car walked to work till the day he died. but dads group are alway there for each other and lived in some hard times. so for you guys that have money i,m happy for you but never look down on me for raiseing or haveing 5 kids that at the end of the day they look to me and want, cause till the day i die i will give to them and hope they are as lucky as my dads family to have to closeness of liveing in some hard time.o ya my spell sucks too
 
8)I joined FABO after visiting for a year. I joined because the people here are just like the people in my Club. They are mostely caring and giving people.

People can participate in many ways, giving money is a small one. Most of the time its the advice and technicial know-how that has the most value to someone. Total up some of the real technicial info posted here and how much money is that worth? You can't put a dollar figure on it.

People participate in many ways. Personally, I would rather give directly to someone who will use it than some charity that has too much overhead and only pennies on my dollar get to those who need it.

People participate in many ways. Talk about what you know. Write a tech thread. Start a blog. I started a website over 15 years ago when I was broke and it balloned into a car club. You can give back and feel needed without sending or spending money.

The key word is participate. Be active. Rant if you have to. Ask dumb questions or try to be funny. Comment on any old thread. Its ok, I do. We all have one thing in common or we would not be here. 8)
 
To Pete and all of the other people here on FABO...This is a family, and as such you should be able to come here to air your position, your concerns and your opinions and have them be accepted without reserve or restriction. In my opinion, all are welcome here, and all opinions are accepted by me as the position of the poster, no offense taken. If you feel tapped out from helping people, thats OK, just take a step back and relax, no one is counting the times you have not been able to help out, and no ill will or bad feelings will be sent your way. You all should be proud of the times that you could help out someone here, or anywhere for that matter. Sometimes it may be just a bit of advise, knowledge or information, but it is all valuable to someone who is in need. If you could put a value on years of experience, your input would be worth many times what it has taken you to get it. Don't feel bad because you can't help out this time, or next time or even the time after that, just help out when and how you can!!!

I am not rich by any means, and my job is just as iffy as everybody elses right now, but if I receive a windfall of sorts, I try to pass along my good fortune to others in need. For instance, a friend who knows that I know Mopar called and asked if I'd like a trailer full of Mopar parts. I said yes and he dropped them off. I am selling them for fair prices and splitting the $$$ with him. I feel that my 1/2 of the $$ from these parts is a gift, and as such I have no hesitation in donating it to a good cause. I couldn't help out with any $$$ from my regular job, as sometimes I don't get paid for over a month at a time. As a matter of fact, I am still waiting on over $2200.00 from a job that I completed in March!!! True I could use the $$$ from these parts to put towards my everyday bills, but to me parts money is for parts, or helping other people who are in need of parts or help. If it wern't for parts money, I would not be in a position to help anybody.

Bottom line, help when you can and how you can, and I'll do the same. We're like a family here, and everybody on FABO is included in that family, and your opinions all matter and are respected!!! Geof
 
Lets face it helping someone who has a need regardless of circumstance is good for the soul. Heck I sometimes wish it was me on the recieving end of a group fabo effort!

Who wouldnt wish for that!
 
daredevil said:
i,m glad to see some here understand. If i could i would save the world but it just aint happening. All i can do lately is mow the elderly neighbors lawn or let people in in traffic or small gestures of that nature. Hope it gets better soon.
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you've got a big heart bro. Hang on to that . The rest of the world will be allright. The lord will reward you for your kindness. Might not be when we want , but he comes through.
 
I guess i am a sucker,but I like to help when i can with parts,but when it comes to money its mine all mine.
 
MOUSE said:
you've got a big heart bro. Hang on to that . The rest of the world will be allright. The lord will reward you for your kindness. Might not be when we want , but he comes through.
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Problem is I got a big mouth to go with it.
 
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