I must step away from FABO for a while

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I wish I could say "hurry back" but maybe that's not the wisest advice at this point. Looking forward to seeing you again though.
 
I couldn't imagine..... So sorry to read what happened to you. Words aren't enough, prayers sent, I can only suggest a support group like a church, a relatives family, somebody that you could be with in person.
 
Mike, I am so sorry. I can relate, but our outcome was completely different. Kitty had her stroke back in May of 2015. She came out of the bedroom after a nap and I immediately knew from the droop on the right side of her face and the fact she could not talk. I called 911. Kitty was lucky and has made what we call a 100% recovery. She still has a little trouble sometimes getting words out and strangely enough, navigating steps.

We'll add you to our prayer list Mike, but in the mean time is there anything we can DO? We are also in Georgia, after all.
 
My 8 yr old son died in my arms (many years ago). Man do I feel your pain. You can survive, but you'll get beat up once in awhile and at the weirdest times. My niece gave me one piece of advise that has stuck with me. Breath uncle, Just breath.

My heart and prayers are with you......
 
You two are newly weds! My wife and I have been married 52 years. We are in good health and joke about the things we are going to change if the other goes first. That conversation usually ends up serious because we can't imagine a life without the other. There is hardly a memory that doesn't have her in it. It will be hard, but try to find something to fill your time- another car? another hobby? volunteer your time to help others? Good luck, buddy. Murray.
 
Thank you all for your wishes and support.
I am going to get thru this.
Right now I have to comfort my 5 yo dog who is terrifed of fireworks.

I am not going away I just need a break.

Thanks again everyone.
 
Glad that you have a dog to help you through, there was a time when my dogs were all that kept me going, knowing they were entirely dependent on me helped to get past some of the most trying times in my life. Hold your furry friend close and talk to them about whatever is on your mind, they listen and will never judge you, they know when you are feeling down and will be there for you.
 
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I have no words of wisdom....Praying for God’s peace and comfort to be with you through this time.
 
I will be thinking of you and praying that through time you will find peace in your heart. Please just know that the folk here all care, very much so, about you and your well being. We’ll be here when you need us, and hoping that you can find your strength to follow a new chapter in your life that celebrates the past, thrives in the present, and embraces the future! Peace brother!
 
Mike, when we are young nobody prepares us for the devastating moments that will eventually come. The joy we feel during life's best monents can never compare to the pain we feel during life's worst moments.
Last year my father passed away right in front of me, very unexpectedly. 17 months later and it's still incredibly hard.
But I learned something that was an enormous help... The greatest therapy in the world is sitting in the garage right now. I don't know what your car status is. Maybe yours is completely restored, maybe you have some upgrades you want to make, or maybe you are working on a project car.

My point is this... You can find hours of solace by putting your energy and focus into restoring a car. And every repair you make or milestone you hit along the way can be in her memory.

I wish you the best, sir. The Good Lord will carry you through this.
Footprints In The Sand.
 
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cudamike13 said:
Hi guys and gals.
My wife had a massive stroke on July 6th 2019.
She passed away the next day on July 7th 2019.
I found her brain dead and called 911.
She was airlifted to stroke center in Chatanooga Tn.
By the time I arrived. they called me and said they have to talk to me before I could see her.
They told me there was no hope of recovery.
We had talked abt what we would do in such a situation.
I signed a "DNR".
We were married 35 yrs.

I thought I was tough and could handle it on my own!
Boy was I wrong.
Last week it felt like I was hit by TRAIN.
My Dr says I have severe Depression.
Outside of finding my wife brain dead, this it the hardest thing, this is the worst thing ever in my life.
I dont want to do anything, and it is very difficult to eat.
I am messed up big time.


I live in country where there are very few people.
My wife was from here, but I know damn few people and its tough.


I am being treated by Dr and hopefully I will recover from this.

The FABO community is the closet thing to family I have.
I hope to be back soon.
Cudamike13.
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Hang in there.
Remember what she asked and that you honored it. She will be apart of you, a consideration in your thoughts and decisions as you continue the rest of your life.
 
I wish I had some magic words. Hang in there. I wish you well and better times.
 
We will miss you for sure, just know you are amongst friends and we will be looking forward to when we meet again.
 
Our deepest condolences from up here Mike. Between fabo, your car and your family there is a lot of support to help along the way. One foot in front of the other.
Be well.
 
Sorry for your loss sir.
It sounds like you loved her dearly just remember a time she looked and smiled at you and you knew she was yours.... Hold that image in your heart and she will always be with you.
 
That's a very difficult situation to deal with. Something you can never prepare yourself for. Just remember you are not alone in this. There's people who truly care and understand the pain you feel from your loss. Time will help but it will never feel the void in your heart. That can only be filled with the precious memories of your loved one. I hope you find the peace within yourself that when you think of your wife you can smile and remember the person you loved. 65'
 
Mike...my deepest sympathy. There isn’t much I can add that hasn’t been said in the previous posts except....chin up and keep marching forward. It’s what we do and who we are. Best wishes, Brian.
 
Yesterday was mine and my wife's 38th anniversary, today is our 39th anniversary of the first day we met, I married her almost a year later. I can't even imagine what you are going through, if you need anything at all please don't hesitate to reach out, peace be with you...
 
I’m sorry for you loss. I’m all teared up as I read this news. Every body deals with loss differently and it takes time. I was married to my high school sweet heart nearly 40yrs until depression took her away. Find a group that is for grieving the loss of a loved one. Prayers for you
 
Hopefully the worst is over for you.
Hang onto the good memories for strength and with God's help, tomorrow will be brighter
 
Mike, I can tell you were to find peace in the midst of a storm joy instead of depression clear thought instead of confusion his name is Jesus.he came that we could be forgiven healed and made whole.and I can promise you this when you call on him he will answer. The prayer can be as simple as help me. And I can promise you He will answer. I will continue to pray for you
 
Mike, nothing I can add that has not been already said. Just recognize this big crazy Forum with all these different folks from all different backgrounds and even Countries have a combined strength of resolve passion and determination. Every guy/girl on here will be here for you anytime anywhere. The one thing you can know is you are never alone if you are part of this glorious mob we call FABO! And don’t underestimate the healing a dog can bring to your heart.
 
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