dukeboy440
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Ddaddy
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I swear, sometimes I think I live in a parallel Universe to the one my wife and daughter live in and only bits and pieces of my communication gets through to them.
Me to my daughter after getting home from swim team practice that she went to an hour after she got home from school...
Me: Your mother told me she made you dinner, what are you having?
Daughter: I don’t know yet.
Me: Did she tell you what she made?
Daughter: Yes, chicken.
Me: What kind? Is it the same kind as you ate after school before practice?
Daughter: I don’t know, not sure what I want yet.
Me (to my wife): Did you make the same kind of chicken for her that you made this afternoon?
Wife: I don’t know yet.
Me: You don’t know yet? You just pulled it out of the oven.
Wife: Yes, but she hasn’t told me what else she wants to eat.
Me: (grumbling to myself) I will be in the garage. (Grabs beer out of fridge).
Me to my daughter after getting home from swim team practice that she went to an hour after she got home from school...
Me: Your mother told me she made you dinner, what are you having?
Daughter: I don’t know yet.
Me: Did she tell you what she made?
Daughter: Yes, chicken.
Me: What kind? Is it the same kind as you ate after school before practice?
Daughter: I don’t know, not sure what I want yet.
Me (to my wife): Did you make the same kind of chicken for her that you made this afternoon?
Wife: I don’t know yet.
Me: You don’t know yet? You just pulled it out of the oven.
Wife: Yes, but she hasn’t told me what else she wants to eat.
Me: (grumbling to myself) I will be in the garage. (Grabs beer out of fridge).
dukeboy440
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I grew up seeing death, both of people and animals on and around the farm, in most cases I’m fairly neutral towards it and get over it quickly but there’s a few occasions where death still gets me upset. Anything young kid related for sure. And then what’s coming with my grandma, who’s dementia has taken her to near her death bed in the last month. My grandma and grandpa raised me, voluntarily, not because they were forced too. So I’m really close with them. Those are going to be very rough days and honestly, dreading those.
But anything pet or animal wise, I’m like ok, sucks but gotta move on. So it’s been really hard for me to understand what my wife has been going thru with the mourning of her pup
But anything pet or animal wise, I’m like ok, sucks but gotta move on. So it’s been really hard for me to understand what my wife has been going thru with the mourning of her pup
Ddaddy
Just doing what I do
Or you could find real compassion for another living being that you ran over and killed.
I lost a few good friends (brothers in seperate incidents)tragically,another was murdered.
Those were very hard. My dad passed when i was 19,he was an asshole but it was still difficult.
I will get over this in short time,as the last few weeks gave us time to accept it was time.
Everybody deals with loss differently, my daughter isnt phased at all,my son on the other hand is a wreck.
Im already looking for her,not in her spot by the window.
Ddaddy
Just doing what I do
You answered your own question. You are only disturbed by losing lives close to you but can’t understand that your wife was as close to her pet as you are to your loved ones.
Your compassion only applies to yourself and can’t fathom what others feel.
dukeboy440
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True words my friend. Best wishes
dukeboy440
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I can understand that. I’ve thought similar thoughts on some of the pets we’ve had that have died tragically like that. It’s weird though how people react and cope with death. Don’t let anyone shame you for thinking or feeling one way or the other about it. Handle it in your own way. Whatever that may be.
Well, it's not like I hunted him down. If i had known it was going to happen i would have put him in the house to prevent it but once it did happen I couldn't undo it
dukeboy440
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Well shoot, I stopped at Tractor supply tonight to buy cut off wheels cause I ran out, I grabbed the wrong sized shanks. Need the 3/8 shank ones and I grabbed the 1/2 inch ones. 
dukeboy440
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True. I’m sure your parents can understand that.
His replacement is a rescue shelter cat that has been run over before.
I actually like that because I see how he doesn't mess around with traffic and knows he needs to get out of the way or it will hurt...... again.
I am liking having an adult cat who seems smarter and knows where his boundaries are.
3 years in and he is a reliable cat
I actually like that because I see how he doesn't mess around with traffic and knows he needs to get out of the way or it will hurt...... again.
I am liking having an adult cat who seems smarter and knows where his boundaries are.
3 years in and he is a reliable cat
dukeboy440
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That’s good
I grew up on a farm. Death is a part of it. We used to butcher on a regular basis because my uncle would do custom butchering for neighbors and many time I was the killer of the food. I think I have become desensitized by it all. Interestingbut he just died December 14th. Great guy I will miss him
Ddaddy
Just doing what I do
But you could have cared about it afterward....but you didn’t much.
Just grabbed him by the tail and threw him in the hole.
dukeboy440
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Yeah, we’ve butchered hogs, cattle and chickens. The occasional goat . Lots of rabbits deer and squirrels too. You respect those animals for giving up their lives to be food but you don’t get emotional about it. Probably the biggest difference between city folk and farm kids.
Ddaddy
Just doing what I do
Becoming desensitized to death isn’t good for the soul.
I figured that.
Evening all.
Ddaddy
Just doing what I do
Or those that understand the difference between animals raised or hunted for food and pets that we take responsibility for as living beings and members of our family.
Killing is easy, compassion and caring is hard.
I can shoot a pigeon without thinking twice. I feel bad if first shot wounds it.
Taking animals for food is far different, as that is what it was intended for.
a friend has a few horses,the kind friendly one with a personality is a tough one to lose. The other one is a complete jerk, kicking, biting other horses, and blocking the others from getting to the waterer and the hay bale. They didnt think twice.
Taking animals for food is far different, as that is what it was intended for.
a friend has a few horses,the kind friendly one with a personality is a tough one to lose. The other one is a complete jerk, kicking, biting other horses, and blocking the others from getting to the waterer and the hay bale. They didnt think twice.
Ddaddy
Just doing what I do
If only we could do the same to humans that act that way...
Evening Tim
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