To Ride or Drive...

To Ride, or Drive....

  • Sell the bike, rebuild the car with the money.

    Votes: 110 79.1%

  • Keep the bike, work on the car whenever you have spare parts money.

    Votes: 29 20.9%
  • Total voters
    139
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65_valiant

65_valiant

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I've been thinking about this alot lately. My girlfriend and I are expecting our first (her second) child in december. Since the chances of me getting a bunch of time away from the house will likely be slim, which I don't mind since the time that would be spent out on the road riding will instead be spent with the baby, I thought about selling my bike. Money from the sale would be put into the Valiant to get her back on the road and reliably driving incase I need a back up.
 
I am a big fan of riding the motorcycle! However I am also a big fan of spending quality time with each of my passions. If starting a family is something you want to do (or is happening anyway :) ) selling the bike is less about the money and more about having your time split in less directions so you can actually enjoy car time/ family time etc. Best of luck!
 
How about selling the bike and buying a ring so you can turn that girlfriend into a wife? :) Set a precedent you know?
 
I got rid of both my bikes due to being cut off or not seen by people on the road. My wife and I are expecting our first as well and I would rather be here for my family rather than in ICU or worse! good Luck Semper Fi
 
Sold mine and never looked back. Actually, I traded 2 wheels w no tunes and no air for 4 wheels w no tunes and no air . I think my wife n kids liked our big red dodge hillbilly deluxe truck over that little.sportster anyway. At least we all got.to go to the same.place. together. And I.agree.w LJS30 make her yer bride.
 
LJS30 said:
How about selling the bike and buying a ring so you can turn that girlfriend into a wife? :) Set a precedent you know?
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Never need to be married to have kids (plus if a split happens you still keep your stuff), could never understand the reasoning behind getting married despite the reason.
 
1970Duster said:
Never need to be married to have kids (plus if a split happens you still keep your stuff), could never understand the reasoning behind getting married despite the reason.
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There's reasons for and reasons against. Legally, she's you, you're her. That can hold a downside, too, but in the case of something like what the wife and I are going through, now, having someone legally speak on her behalf without having to worry about power of attorney or living will documents solely because we're spouses can save a lot of headache in the long run if other family members decide to challenge things in court. Of course, to cover ourselves we still have the appropriate documents filled out, signed, witnessed, and filed, but not giving the other party a legal leg to stand on, right from the get go, helps.

But back to our regularly scheduled thread:

Personally, I'd sell the bike. As the wee-one grows, the Valiant will go a long way into introducing him/her to the hobby.
 
Sell the bike, you can always buy another one later when you get the bug again. My kids are almost grown, so I have a little more spare time. Last year I bought the bike that I've wanted since 1984. We spent last winter completely going through it. Now I can go to classic car and bike shows!!

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1970Duster said:
Never need to be married to have kids (plus if a split happens you still keep your stuff), could never understand the reasoning behind getting married despite the reason.
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Well everyone has their opinion about the issue of marriage. In my mind marriage is the ultimate commitment a real man does when he meets a woman who gives him her all in every sense of the word. Unfortunately in our society today many men and women are scared of commitment and would rather play boyfriend/girlfriend instead. If a girl is good enough to have your children, sleep in your bed, make you dinner, care for you, etc...then why not marry?
 
Sell the bike..... I be out on the road making up lost time for you
 

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1970Duster said:
Never need to be married to have kids (plus if a split happens you still keep your stuff), could never understand the reasoning behind getting married despite the reason.
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Never understood the marriage thing either. Last thing I need in my life is more bureaucratic BS.
 
Loosenutz said:
Never understood the marriage thing either. Last thing I need in my life is more bureaucratic BS.
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I tried it but it wasn't for me. My boss, his son, friend of mine are married and they all say "If I ever get out of this one there will NOT be another one!"
 
LJS30 said:
Well everyone has their opinion about the issue of marriage. In my mind marriage is the ultimate commitment a real man does when he meets a woman who gives him her all in every sense of the word. Unfortunately in our society today many men and women are scared of commitment and would rather play boyfriend/girlfriend instead. If a girl is good enough to have your children, sleep in your bed, make you dinner, care for you, etc...then why not marry?
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Opinions always vary but for some people, it isn't about fear of commitment. It is fear of jumping into a rash decision and realizing that five years or so later that you married the wrong one. Then comes the hate for each other and her wanting to take everything you have.

I think that if somebody wants to marry, that's fine. I think a couple should be together for at least two years or so to learn everything about that person.
 
Sell the bike. If you have a little one on the way you have a new responsibility to him or her (and your girlfriend) to be there in one piece. Ya I know, there's millions of bikes out there and not everybody gets hurt but your chances of surviving a crash are not very good. It's more of a one shot deal. Sorry, I'm a dad and you will be soon! LOL tmm
 
:love5:Well when i married my wife i couldn't get her to sit on a bike.Now 22 years later i cant get gas for my bike with out my wife grabbing her helmet and say can i go i know its just 2 blocks!!!!!:love5:

My wife started riding 2006 now that's all she ask me to do take me for a ride please.And Saturday day before her 45th B_day her and i did just under 200 miles all back roads.She hard core.
 

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Ok... well I guess I'll address the wife/girlfriend issue first...

Some of you say it's about being a real man and committing to a woman that is having your child. Thats your view and thats respected, it's not mine however.
I'm looking at the entire situation like do I want to marry her eventho I dont know if I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
Not to sound cynical or anything, but marriage is like death, it should only happen once. I dont want to put our kid thru a divorce, and I dont want to put it thru an unhappy marriage either. Getting married for any other reason other than loving the other half more than you could imagine anything else and not only wanting,but asking, to spend the rest of your life with that person is the most foolish thing I have ever heard. So in short, all of your oppinions are respected, but It's pretty disrespectful to come into a thread about selling or NOT selling a motorcycle and start popping off at the mouth about putting a ring on her finger knowing that you don't know a damned thing about anything...


Now, about the bike/car.
That was what I said to her tonite, we can ALL enjoy the car. The bike is something for two, IF we both have the time and sitters.

BTW, she teared up when I mentioned selling the bike. It was her first bike to ride on and she got to do it with me. But she likes the idea of cruising on the weekends to car shows and stuff like that. So either way she said she'd be happy, as long as there is some sort of activity that involves motors and such.
 
When my first child came, not only did I sell the bike which was a no brainier because they are friggin dangerous and my Wife's little Brother got killed on his street bike during our honeymoon vacation....not cool in any way, but with the new baby and all I was also forced to sell my Valiant project as well because I could barely pay the bills and the thought of EXTRA money was such a friggin joke I could hear the laughter in my head.

I guess it depends on your funds and your priorities....chances are the wifey is gonna make you sell the valiant too.

I made the decision that I would not start another project car until I could afford to do it right and would probably have gray hair starting by that time.....my wife jokes with me that I was right way back when I said that.

Long story short my build STILL took ten friggin years as time and money allowed.
 
I will sell my bike only to buy another, otherwise you'll have to pry it from my cold, dead hands. :D

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But seriously, there are no certainties in life. I'd never sell my bike just "because its dangerous". Lots of things are dangerous, and you don't get any say in a very large number of them. You can just as easily have a heart attack, get cancer, whatever. If you enjoy riding, then enjoy it. Nobody gets out of life alive, and very few get to leave happily on their own terms. Get a nice life insurance policy if you're worried about your family.

Now, if your bike is just going to sit in the garage because you simply don't have the time, that's a different story. Especially if you can use the money to build your Valiant. That's a sound financial decision. Obviously, keeping the bike and building the Valiant would be great too, but not everyone can afford to do that. And if you and your new family can all enjoy the Valiant, even better.

Don't worry about all the marriage talk. Well over 50% of all marriages end in divorce, so as a "commitment" its pretty much useless. If your partner doesn't trust you to stay around you've got bigger problems, and putting a ring on her finger is not the solution.

My significant other (girlfriend, partner, whatever you want to call her) and I have been in a committed relationship for over 10 years. Longer, I might add, than several of my friends marriages lasted. I'm happy, she's happy, why mess with a good thing. Do what works for you.
 
65_valiant said:
Ok... well I guess I'll address the wife/girlfriend issue first...

Some of you say it's about being a real man and committing to a woman that is having your child. Thats your view and thats respected, it's not mine however.
I'm looking at the entire situation like do I want to marry her eventho I dont know if I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
Not to sound cynical or anything, but marriage is like death, it should only happen once. I dont want to put our kid thru a divorce, and I dont want to put it thru an unhappy marriage either. Getting married for any other reason other than loving the other half more than you could imagine anything else and not only wanting,but asking, to spend the rest of your life with that person is the most foolish thing I have ever heard. So in short, all of your oppinions are respected, but It's pretty disrespectful to come into a thread about selling or NOT selling a motorcycle and start popping off at the mouth about putting a ring on her finger knowing that you don't know a damned thing about anything...


Now, about the bike/car.
That was what I said to her tonite, we can ALL enjoy the car. The bike is something for two, IF we both have the time and sitters.

BTW, she teared up when I mentioned selling the bike. It was her first bike to ride on and she got to do it with me. But she likes the idea of cruising on the weekends to car shows and stuff like that. So either way she said she'd be happy, as long as there is some sort of activity that involves motors and such.
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You're absolutely right.
On the other hand, she sounds like a keeper.
Yeah, sell the bike and keep the car is my vote.
And definitely keep the lady in your life, good luck with the new little one that's coming!
 
Exactly what 72bluNblu said^^^^

Its like when you both marry everything changes for the negative direction. I don't know how to explain it. I'm sure there will be some that say "Oh it got better actually." Yeah that's because they are hen pecked and better not say anything that don't agree with the wife. My foreman was bragging that he and his wife have never had a argument. I and my coworkers said he kisses her *** probably. I was riding with my foreman in the company truck and he stopped by his house for a few minutes. He invited me in to meet wife. It was absolutely spooky how his demeanor changed while he was within her presence. Even when she would call him on the phone he would go from manly man to a pussy cat. Nah... that kind of living is not for me bra!
 
Depends on what you want. The bike is fun but the kid won't be able to ride on it for years. If you want to spend time and enjoy a hobby with the kid and mom then get the car done. I've been wanting another bike but at this point my oil girl is only 3 years old. Not gonna leave her and mom home when I want to go places so the bike will wait and I will work on the cars.

As far as marriage goes. No need man. Don't let anyone pressure you into it. A stupid piece of paper isn't going to make a difference in your commitment or loyalty to your girlfriend. The biggest thing is to treat the baby and mom right.
 
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