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Mark Wainwright said:
Wouldn't be the worst thing you ever did. You'd be close enough to them but still have your freedom in fart haven. So that wouldn't impede on either of you.
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Ahh the granny flat, was talked about here but zoning variances would take along time and the cost of hooking up the well and such to much.
 
Mark Wainwright said:
That's great and all but it can cause friction in the house.
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oh i wont deny it did at times

i remember one time sitting down with my middle girl and she said "dad, i can always tell when you get frustrated with grandma, because you start yelling at her in Dutch"

needless to say, grandma didnt speak Dutch


Mark Wainwright said:
Not move in with her but move to where she lives so she can be closer. We wouldn't do that to her lol
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that was our first move when her dad got sick
i wanted a place where we could "keep an eye on him"
preferably a 2 family home but i didnt want them to feel like they were living by my grace
it was almost impossible to find something where the second family part didnt look like an afterthought or like it was executed half heartedly

i looked and looked and finally said "screw it" and bought us a duplex instead
so they had a full 1700 square feet, 2 full bathrooms and 3 bedrooms, plus a full kitchen (you would not believe how many "2 family homes" do not have 2 full kitchens)

he lived there for 3 years and then he died there

one day, about a year later my wife went over to see her mom, and she asked her what she was making for dinner
her mom said, nothing, i dont have anyone to cook for anyway

within a month from that happening we had the duplex sold and bought the home we are in now


im not saying it is right for everyone (and there might even be a cultural element in it) but this has been what works for our family

(and we have a somewhat unique structure that allows us some more freedom to do these things anyway)
 
Ahoey said:
Ahh the granny flat, was talked about here but zoning variances would take along time and the cost of hooking up the well and such to much.
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My oldest daughter has a farm so wouldn't be a problem putting in a Granny flat and she has 11 kids so she says one more diaper to change is no big deal. LOL
 
diymirage said:
oh i wont deny it did at times

i remember one time sitting down with my middle girl and she said "dad, i can always tell when you get frustrated with grandma, because you start yelling at her in Dutch"

needless to say, grandma didnt speak Dutch




that was our first move when her dad got sick
i wanted a place where we could "keep an eye on him"
preferably a 2 family home but i didnt want them to feel like they were living by my grace
it was almost impossible to find something where the second family part didnt look like an afterthought or like it was executed half heartedly

i looked and looked and finally said "screw it" and bought us a duplex instead
so they had a full 1700 square feet, 2 full bathrooms and 3 bedrooms, plus a full kitchen (you would not believe how many "2 family homes" do not have 2 full kitchens)

he lived there for 3 years and then he died there

one day, about a year later my wife went over to see her mom, and she asked her what she was making for dinner
her mom said, nothing, i dont have anyone to cook for anyway

within a month from that happening we had the duplex sold and bought the home we are in now


im not saying it is right for everyone (and there might even be a cultural element in it) but this has been what works for our family

(and we have a somewhat unique structure that allows us some more freedom to do these things anyway)
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Glad it worked for you. A lot of people wouldn't no matter how much you love the people. Like I said it can be a big strain on everyone.
 
diymirage said:
oh i wont deny it did at times

i remember one time sitting down with my middle girl and she said "dad, i can always tell when you get frustrated with grandma, because you start yelling at her in Dutch"

needless to say, grandma didnt speak Dutch




that was our first move when her dad got sick
i wanted a place where we could "keep an eye on him"
preferably a 2 family home but i didnt want them to feel like they were living by my grace
it was almost impossible to find something where the second family part didnt look like an afterthought or like it was executed half heartedly

i looked and looked and finally said "screw it" and bought us a duplex instead
so they had a full 1700 square feet, 2 full bathrooms and 3 bedrooms, plus a full kitchen (you would not believe how many "2 family homes" do not have 2 full kitchens)

he lived there for 3 years and then he died there

one day, about a year later my wife went over to see her mom, and she asked her what she was making for dinner
her mom said, nothing, i dont have anyone to cook for anyway

within a month from that happening we had the duplex sold and bought the home we are in now


im not saying it is right for everyone (and there might even be a cultural element in it) but this has been what works for our family

(and we have a somewhat unique structure that allows us some more freedom to do these things anyway)
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Your a good man DY.
 
Professor Fate said:
Always told my kids "Think of all those years I spent changing your dirty diapers- Well, payback's a *****..."
They know I'm kidding. Or they think I am. :)
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Tell mine the same thing with the added fact of pushing them around the store in a shopping cart. My turn is coming. lol
 
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