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Old man ray said:
Send her to child nut doc. Spend, I mean waste thousands of dollars having her evaluated.
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heck no, that's what snowflakes do.

GeorgeH said:
I have to agree. For a 3 y/o biting is their most powerful control/defense mechanism.
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yeah but she's done it across so many daycares in the past year, I'm not sure who or what the bullying stems from. Only thought would be her older cousin who's 5 was doing it to her every weekend at dinner but we got that stopped and she's not been around here for over a month

MomsDuster said:
Ain't gunna lie, I'd hit it!
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hahaha
 
yeah but she's done it across so many daycares in the past year, I'm not sure who or what the bullying stems from. Only thought would be her older cousin who's 5 was doing it to her every weekend at dinner but we got that stopped and she's not been around here for over a month

so it took you a year to stop her older cousin from bullying her?:wtf:
 
dukeboy_318 said:
yeah but she's done it across so many daycares in the past year, I'm not sure who or what the bullying stems from. Only thought would be her older cousin who's 5 was doing it to her every weekend at dinner but we got that stopped and she's not been around here for over a month
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The feeling of "being bullied" isn't always physical and not always obvious. Sometimes it's being in a situation that is oppressive, frightening and out of your control evokes the same feelings of being bullied. It can be obvious, or subtle, since kids expand reality in their own mind to be far more scary or oppressive than it actually is.

Their perception of reality isn't the same as yours.
 
GeorgeH said:
yeah but she's done it across so many daycares in the past year, I'm not sure who or what the bullying stems from. Only thought would be her older cousin who's 5 was doing it to her every weekend at dinner but we got that stopped and she's not been around here for over a month

so it took you a year to stop her older cousin from bullying her?:wtf:
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No no. We got that stopped almost instantly. Let me back up,

We have a weekly Sunday dinner at my father in laws. Her cousin, my niece, is the daughter of my sister in law. Her cousin was bullying her for just a few weeks before my wife had enough of it and we got that stopped over a year ago. She hasn't been around her cousin for a month, not due to the bullying thing but because my father in law is on chemo for cancer at the VA for the pasted 6 weeks. He's got a rare forum of bone cancer. So we've not had the family get together because someone has been sick and so the dinners get canceled to avoid spreading germs to him until everyone is healthy
 
Ddaddy said:
The feeling of "being bullied" isn't always physical and not always obvious. Sometimes it's being in a situation that is oppressive, frightening and out of your control evokes the same feelings of being bullied. It can be obvious, or subtle, since kids expand reality in their own mind to be far more scary or oppressive than it actually is.

Their perception of reality isn't the same as yours.
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There is one thing that has been noticed that bothers me. She keeps saying she sees ghosts at night outside and wants to play with them. But she says she's scared to sleep by herself too
 
Chris, have you gotten her alone and in a gentle way tried to get her to explain to you why she is acting like this? She may not be able to actually express it so you will need to help her explore her feelings and find the root in a gentle and safe manner to help her open up and discover it.
 
dukeboy_318 said:
No no. We got that stopped almost instantly. Let me back up,

We have a weekly Sunday dinner at my father in laws. Her cousin, my niece, is the daughter of my sister in law. Her cousin was bullying her for just a few weeks before my wife had enough of it and we got that stopped over a year ago. She hasn't been around her cousin for a month, not due to the bullying thing but because my father in law is on chemo for cancer at the VA for the pasted 6 weeks. He's got a rare forum of bone cancer. So we've not had the family get together because someone has been sick and so the dinners get canceled to avoid spreading germs to him until everyone is healthy
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gotcha!
 
dukeboy_318 said:
There is one thing that has been noticed that bothers me. She keeps saying she sees ghosts at night outside and wants to play with them. But she says she's scared to sleep by herself too
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That could be a part of it, especially if she is perceiving feelings of people in her family being sick that may be dying and leaving her. Family is incredibly important to young girls and the thought of it changing, or them being left all alone by people they love dying is profoundly frightening for them. Being scared to sleep by herself is a suggestion of that fear of not being safe in the warmth of the family she knows if it were to somehow not be there anymore.
 
Ddaddy said:
Chris, have you gotten her alone and in a gentle way tried to get her to explain to you why she is acting like this? She may not be able to actually express it so you will need to help her explore her feelings and find the root in a gentle and safe manner to help her open up and discover it.
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Yeah a few times. While she's ahead of her class in vocal skills, there's times I can't figure out what she's saying
 
Ddaddy said:
That could be a part of it, especially if she is perceiving feelings of people in her family being sick that may be dying and leaving her. Family is incredibly important to young girls and the thought of it changing, or them being left all alone by people they love dying is profoundly frightening for them. Being scared to sleep by herself is a suggestion of that fear of not being safe in the warmth of the family she knows if it were to somehow not be there anymore.
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You know, you may be on to something there.
 
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