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krazykuda said:
It's not fair to the kids... The mom is bringing this on by her actions and she will have to deal with the results...




Yes, she is doing more damage to her relationship with the kids than she realizes...


My ex went through the same thing... She took off for a year after I paid her off in the divorce... She would go to her boyfriend's house for daysand not take care of the kids... Her parents stepped up...

It broke my heart to see her tear the boys hearts up by telling them "I'll be home in a while..." The kids would wait and wait and wait for her to show up, just to be broken hearted when she didn't... She would show up 3-4 days later... She did this to them over, and over, and over...

Now she doesn't understand why the oldest boy doesn't answer her texts and calls most of the time... He remembers when she abandoned them and has some "issues" with her because of it... He says, "She didn't want to have anything to do with me when I was younger, so why does she want to be in my life now???"


Just try to keep the kids occupied and out of the middle of this as much as you can to minimize the effect on them...
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the lesser of two evils thing too - - better it be with Chris than some sitter they don't know.. so yea
 
I have several Uncles with there names on that wall......Never made it home.
 
ScampMike said:
the lesser of two evils thing too - - better it be with Chris than some sitter they don't know.. so yea
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They will build a better bond with Chris....

My oldest son has NEVER gone to visit his mother...

However, he has gone to visit her parents whenever he can get the time to go... He's seen his grandparents about 4-5 times in the last year...

He hasn't gone to see his mother at her place EVER...

The only time he sees her, is when she comes HERE to visit....


The little brother has gone to visit mom a few times...
 
ScampMike said:
nothing against Chris and his wife at all - - but they are losing out anyway, sure, they get to go to XYZ but they HAVE to see that mom isn't taking them..
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yep, and when she does take them some place, its to her new boy toy's apartment
ScampMike said:
mom is losing out too...
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she doesnt seem to realize that

krazykuda said:
It's not fair to the kids... The mom is bringing this on by her actions and she will have to deal with the results...




Yes, she is doing more damage to her relationship with the kids than she realizes...


My ex went through the same thing... She took off for a year after I paid her off in the divorce... She would go to her boyfriend's house for days and not take care of the kids... Her parents stepped up...

It broke my heart to see her tear the boys hearts up by telling them "I'll be home in a while..." The kids would wait and wait and wait for her to show up, just to be broken hearted when she didn't... She would show up 3-4 days later... She did this to them over, and over, and over...

Now she doesn't understand why the oldest boy doesn't answer her texts and calls most of the time... He remembers when she abandoned them and has some "issues" with her because of it... He says, "She didn't want to have anything to do with me when I was younger, so why does she want to be in my life now???"


Just try to keep the kids occupied and out of the middle of this as much as you can to minimize the effect on them...
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We're trying but I dont know where this is gonna end up

ScampMike said:
the lesser of two evils thing too - - better it be with Chris than some sitter they don't know.. so yea
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not sure if insult or joke :lol:

goldfish65 said:
You may observe some Vets there. The design of the wall had so much criticism but you'll see how it works. I am going back this Fall.
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This is the traveling wall. so slightly smaller. Its being escorted in the rain by the Indiana Patriot Riders to town as we speaks

Mopar Tim said:
I have several Uncles with there names on that wall......Never made it home.
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I've never found any relatives on the wall to date, which is surprising considering how many served in that war.
 
Mopar Tim said:
Three to be exact....Uncle Bob, Herb, George....
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My Dad was the oldest, then Bob, Herb, And George was the baby. My father was injured in a football accident, was not fit to serve....All Drafted....All Died....While rich children got exemptions....Real unfair....
 
Mopar Tim said:
Three to be exact....Uncle Bob, Herb, George....
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Gosh that is a big toll on your family. My Uncle Chris who was drafted came back and no one talked about it, but he had a very short temper back then...never towards me or my cousin, we all worked at my Grandpa's small lumber yard. It took quite a while before he settled down and had a family. Did you remember your Uncles?
 
I don't have any relatives that served in Viet Nam...

My dad said that they did do a little off shore patrolling at the beginning of Viet Nam when he was in the Navy, but luckily they never got involved in the fighting before he got out... They were there mainly for a show of strength by just being there... He got out somewhere between late 66 and early 67....

I think one of my grandpa's brothers got killed in WWII...
 
goldfish65 said:
Gosh that is a big toll on your family. My Uncle Chris who was drafted came back and no one talked about it, but he had a very short temper back then...never towards me or my cousin, we all worked at my Grandpa's small lumber yard. It took quite a while before he settled down and had a family. Did you remember your Uncles?
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I do, I lived with Bob one summer... the loss of there boys drove my Grandmother to drinking and a early grave...
 
dukeboy_318 said:
This is the traveling wall. so slightly smaller. Its being escorted in the rain by the Indiana Patriot Riders to town as we speaks

I've never found any relatives on the wall to date, which is surprising considering how many served in that war.
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Oh well you'll see it provides some emotional release between Veterans and it put a lump in my throat seeing them talking together.
 
Mopar Tim said:
My Dad was the oldest, then Bob, Herb, And George was the baby. My father was injured in a football accident, was not fit to serve....All Drafted....All Died....While rich children got exemptions....Real unfair....
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Yep... Where was Bush when he was called on for duty??? He disappeared...

They get someone to pull some strings to get them desk jobs so they don't get hurt...

It's the middle and low class that have to do all the fighting...

and working... and tax paying...


 
krazykuda said:
Yep... Where was Bush when he was called on for duty??? He disappeared...

They get someone to pull some strings to get them desk jobs so they don't get hurt...

It's the middle and low class that have to do all the fighting...

and working... and tax paying...


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Of all the things I agree about in this world, ^^^^This is what I agree about more then ANYTHING!!!!!
 
A juxtaposition here...some would abandon their sons while others had them taken away (war.)
 
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Of course people continue to make the same mistakes over and over. Feuding etc. My little brother is acting a fool right now, he is going through a bad time right now with divorce but once that settles if he keeps it up, he's getting a talking-to from me about holding grudges...he didn't speak to my Dad for years, until the last year of his life when he wasn't himself. Now he has some huge grievance with my sister. Not that he'll listen to me, he didn't then...
 
goldfish65 said:
A juxtaposition here...some would abandon their sons while others had them taken away.
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Usually the root cause is the parent(s) being selfish and putting themselves before the kids... For love or addiction...
 
goldfish65 said:
Of course people continue to make the same mistakes over and over. Feuding etc. My little brother is acting a fool right now, he is going through a bad time right now with divorce but once that settles if he keeps it up, he's getting a talking-to from me about holding grudges...he didn't speak to my Dad for years, until the last year of his life when he wasn't himself. Now he has some huge grievance with my sister. Not that he'll listen to me, he didn't then...
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Divorce can be rough...

Understand that he could use someone to help him through the hard times, but don't enable him either...
 
krazykuda said:
Divorce can be rough...

Understand that he could use someone to help him through the hard times, but don't enable him either...
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Yeah he is not at his best right now so he gets a pass for awhile. It always surprises me how different we are in many ways. Eighteen years age difference and different mother, my Dad's second wife, she was a troubled person.
 
krazykuda said:
Yep... Where was Bush when he was called on for duty??? He disappeared...

They get someone to pull some strings to get them desk jobs so they don't get hurt...

It's the middle and low class that have to do all the fighting...

and working... and tax paying...


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yep it is. yet another reason im getting out.
 
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